the orgasm & Tantra
When practising sexual continence it is a great secret to learn the mechanisms of the orgasm. Men and women who are very skilled in the art of making love with continence can experience the state of orgasm whenever they wish.
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What is an orgasm?
According to the definition of sexologists orgasm is “a trance accompanied by loss of contact with reality”. In Tantra the orgasm is described as a beneficial state of conscious expansion in which the usual limits of the being are spontaneously eliminated, the tyranny of the mind is abolished, and the subject enters into the abyss of a beatific void. The person experiencing an orgasm discovers with amazement the abandonment of oneself, ecstasy, abnegation, the death of the ego, the dissolution of time and space, and transcendence of the unified state of duality. All these effects signify that the state of orgasm is identical with the state of having a metaphysical experience. For this reason, the state of spiritual illumination is also called the “cosmic orgasm” in Tantra.
Before identifying the actual stages of the orgasm, let’s take a look at some general differences between men and women during Love making.
How men and women generally differ during Love making
Another aspect to consider is the different ways in which men and women generally engage in Love making: A woman does not have a precise direction, she does not aim towards something in particular. She just experiences the intensity of all the erotic sensations and perceptions. A woman needs more erotic involvement in the first two stages Love making. If she tries to speed up her orgasmic curve in order to satisfy the man, she risks losing the contact with her own sensations. Both the man and woman must know their own rhythm and at the same time take into consideration the desires and feelings of the other one. In this way the amorous game becomes like an erotic dance in which the two lovers are the two leading characters.
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The rhythm in which men and women reach an orgasm is another important difference. Usually women reach an orgasm after a longer period of time than men. Considering the different length of time needed for each of the lovers to reach orgasm, the necessity for men to become able to control and suspend ejaculation becomes obvious.
Summarising, we can say that there is a difference in regards to the frequency and the level implication of feminine and masculine orgasms: Women tend to reach orgasm with more difficulty, but when they do they live it with their entire being, expanding their experience to the emotional and mental level. Men reach orgasm more easily, but in the first stages men only experience it physically. In order for the two lovers to reach the prolonged orgasm simultaneously, the woman has to stay in contact with her sexual excitation, so that she can reach orgasm more often, while the man has to open more on the energetic level, in order to extend the energy resulting from the orgasm to his entire body and being.
The stages of the orgasmic experience
In ordinary Love making there is usually awareness of 4 phases: prelude, excitation, orgasm and relaxation. However, what appears as just an instinctive, irrational, bewildering, explosive short moment – in which orgasm and ejaculation happen almost in the same time, can in fact be distinguished into particular steps. Being very attentive and lucid during the erotic experience, enables the awareness of these stages of the state of orgasm. This is key for the practise of sexual continence.
Once reaching the state of excitation, the orgasm begins to take place in 5 distinct stages.
Stage 1: peak of excitation
It appears in the last part of the excitation phase and is characterised by a very intense state of excitation. In the physical level, a slight energetic tension can be distinguished in the perineum area. The sexual desire becomes very intense.
Stage 2: preorgasm
Pleasure becomes very intense, together with a sensation of heat and very pleasant vibrations in the perineum area. There appears a sensation of slight relaxation that “lures” one to surrender to the increasing pleasure. It is a stage in which desire is gradually replaced by the pleasure which tends to dissipate the focus.
Stage 3: expansion
Expansion of pleasure in the lower part of the body is experienced and very pleasant pre-orgasmic contractions that tend to “slide” towards ejaculating contractions. At this level a strong tendency to lose completely the conscious control appears and attention is involuntary attracted towards the genital – sexual experience, which tends to amplify explosively. Here appears the “sliding” towards the state of explosive orgasm on he background of a slight relaxation of the sexual area.
Stage 4: orgasm
The state of orgasm appears and the energies are expanding very fast. If in stage 3 we did not lose the attention and lucidity, stage 4 is installed very distinctly and in a controlled way. Here, pleasure is at its peak. The tendency to abandon completely lucidity and control of the attention is at maximum. At this level we fructify the results of training the control of the attention and we can choose to stay here, enjoying for an indefinite period of time the state of orgasm, without moving on to stage five.
Stage 5: explosion
This stage is reached by passing the “point of no-return” The intensity of pleasure becomes too high for the ability at the given moment to control and maintain awareness. The conscious control over the genital area is lost completely and the explosion of energies from this level appears, starting with ejaculatory contractions and continuing with ejaculation for men and explosive loss of orgasmic secretions for women.
Love making with sexual continence
Through making love with sexual continence you can prolong your erotic experiences and intensify them, experiencing multiple states of orgasm.
When making love with sexual continence the lovers engage carefully in the stages 1,2 and 3, so that both the man and the woman have the necessary time to expand the erotic experience at the level of the whole being. In this way, excessive tensions at the genital level are removed (especially in the case of men, as these would lead to fast ejaculation). This results in a phenomenon of synchronizing pleasure between the two lovers. When the stage of orgasm is reached for the first time (4th stage), the two lovers remain at this plateau level and, after a slight descend to the 3rd stage, ( the expansion), this becomes the starting point for a new experience. It can be noticed that after this experience the couple reaches an area of pleasure much more intense then what would have been normally possible if the ending had been ejaculation. In this way, the levels of the intensity of pleasure that characterise the second passing through stages 2,3 and 4 are beyond what the lovers could have experienced in ordinary Love making. The second entering into the 4th stage is accompanied by a pleasure which has never been felt before. Continuing in this way, the two lovers will practically climb this stairway towards more and more intense states of pleasure and fulfilment.
Tantra offers the techniques and tools for reaching perfect sexual continence and making love in a way you have never experienced before. Tantric massage is a gateway into this experience and can teach you step by step how to get closer to an ecstasy beyond your wildest dreams..
